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๐๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐†๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ž ๐–๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐ƒ๐จ๐ง'๐ญ ๐…๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐†๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ


๐๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐†๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ž ๐–๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐ƒ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐…๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐†๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ

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When I was getting certified as a positive psychology practitioner, one of the biggest traits that I learned from my mentor was the practice of Gratitude

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Scientific research has revealed that gratitude increases our happiness, strengthens our immune system, has us sleep better, helps us socially & boosts our work productivity

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With all these benefits, itโ€™s clear that the practice of gratitude is a worthwhile pursuit

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However, hereโ€™s the difficult part

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It is not easy for many to be truly grateful (like REALLY grateful, you know what I mean)

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One of my clients candidly accepted this in a session

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โ€œI just donโ€™t feel grateful, and I feel guilty and shameful for that. I have tried to see the good in everything, journaled, saying thank you for what I have, but it feels fake & pretentious.โ€

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First of all, I honor her for being open & vulnerable. In fact, thatโ€™s what the space of coaching gives us

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Yes, Gratitude does not come naturally for everyone, the practice is not easy

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And, the approach here is not to force yourself to be grateful in all situations

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Forcing ourselves to say thank you when we feel hurt or disrespected can add an insult to our suffering

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So where do we start from?

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Gratitude is actually one of the first expressions of our human consciousness. So is compassion, empathy & awareness

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We approach it differently

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Instead of trying to be grateful, letโ€™s honestly โ€œinvestigateโ€ the reason we are "not" grateful

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๐‹๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ ๐Ÿ : With self-inquiry questions, understand what conditioned traits you carry thatโ€™s keeping you from being grateful?

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Do you focus on negativity (Our brains are wired to focus on negative experiences)

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Do you compare a lot?

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Do you have a tendency to numb your feelings - both good and bad?

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Have you had a childhood upbringing where it was modeled for you to find fault in the outside world

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Or does it come from having been abused or neglected or a trauma event?

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It is OK to be in this place. Once you accept, work through these fears, repression and trauma somatically to melt, release and transmute them

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๐‹๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ ๐Ÿ: Allow space for gratitude and negative emotions simultaneously

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Remember that practicing gratitude does not negate difficult feelings

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Expressing gratitude doesnโ€™t mean you have to ignore or suppress an uncomfortable experience & it doesnโ€™t diminish the difficulty of your experience

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For instance, being grateful that you ended a painful relationship does not mean the hurt and disappointment you feel arenโ€™t real or important

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๐‹๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ ๐Ÿ‘: Going WITHIN to a deeper part of your Self

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That means

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KNOWING Yourself at the level of MIND

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LOVING Yourself at the level of HEART

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TRUSTING Yourself at the level of GUT

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If you can become more stabilized in level 3, you donโ€™t even have to try to be grateful

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Gratitude will start flowing into everything you do, as your natural expression

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