𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟒 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐞𝐫-𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫-𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬
Having been through this journey myself & helping many other women, I have learnt that inside-out transformational coaching is not about answering one’s questions at all, but it is an art of questioning every answer, to constantly point to the 𝐬𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍
Inquiry based modality is probably one of the fastest ways for your inner-transformation & inquiring with the right questions becomes very important to understand what’s really running our lives at a deeper level.
However, while using this modality, it is extremely important to 𝐁𝐞 𝐇𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭, 𝐁𝐞 𝐎𝐩𝐞𝐧, 𝐁𝐞 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 to see what shows up from a deeper place (even if it feels vulnerable)
Below are the top 4 questions to begin your journey and plant the seed of transformation.
#𝟏 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐟𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥?
This is probably one of the go-to questions if you have a background of suppressing your feelings, emotions.
Start with recognizing symptoms like feelings of uneasiness, perfectionism, fear of failure, impatience, worry, out-of-control, self-critical & urge to be special or validate yourself through achievements
This will help reveal hidden fears like self-worthlessness, loneliness, helplessness, feeling insignificant, insecurity & uncertainty
You'll understand why and how you operate (fear-based drive) & what fuel is driving you - this is the beginning of a true transformation.
#𝟐 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭?
You get so much buried in your day-to-day living, stress, exhaustion that you may not even want to ask this question, & even if you do, you might resist the answer, as you may be afraid of what's going to show up.
With this question, you'll begin to feel and understand the difference between inspiration vs motivation.
#𝟑 𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭?
This inquiry digs past your conditioning to unearth that truth within you that's found when you connect beyond your conditioned thought patterns.
By combining this question with other inquiry modalities like ego challenging, exploring utility behind certain identities you hold, recursive questioning, somatic excavation of hidden childhood traumas, and deep dialoguing with desires, you get to the place of authentically wanting what you want, rather than any conditioned wanting.
#𝟒 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨 𝐍𝐎𝐖 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭?
This will get you going and help tap into the right action that is always within you - whether it is acceptance, compassion, trust (internally) or an action and engagement with life (externally).
These four questions become the foundation, leading you to many more & will help in healing a large chunk of what's keeping you stuck in the inner-struggle of fear, anxiety, restlessness, emptiness and what's holding you back.
In Inquiry-Based Transformative coaching, we use both the 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 (𝐃𝐎𝐈𝐍𝐆) and 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 (𝐁𝐄𝐈𝐍𝐆) energies to renew, reclaim, reignite & re-engage with life, both personally and professionally.
𝐈𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭, 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬.
You may be surprised where these questions can take you!
Have fun exploring!