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โ€‹ One of the most common phrases I hear from the women professionals I work with is โ€‹ โ€œI feel stuckโ€ โ€‹ It has different flavors like โ€‹ โ€œI know I need to do XYZ, but I just canโ€™tโ€ โ€‹ โ€œI canโ€™t explain, but when I have to take action, I donโ€™t have the motivation or energyโ€ โ€‹ โ€œI feel I have lost my passion, I donโ€™t look forward to anything, I do things because I have toโ€ โ€‹ โ€œI tried meditation, mindset, yoga, leadership coaching, yet, I canโ€™t move forward." โ€‹ If you are one among them, I feel you, I understand you, I know you, Because I was you! โ€‹ Tackling the problem of โ€œfeeling stuckโ€ has to be done at multiple layers โ€“ mental, emotional and somatic. โ€‹ ๐’๐“๐„๐ ๐Ÿ: At the first layer, we need to explore the personality patterns. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, certain personality patterns may contribute to women feeling stuck. โ€‹ Some of these patterns are Perfectionism, People-pleasing, Fear of failure, Self-doubt, Avoidance, Overthinking and Over Analyzing, Need for control, Success Addiction, Lack of assertiveness, Self-sabotage, Lack of self-care, Emotional Sensitivity, Negative Self-Talk โ€‹ It's important to recognize that these personality patterns are not inherently negative, and have been developed as coping mechanisms or adaptive strategies in response to past experiences, events, traumas. โ€‹ However, when these patterns become ingrained and when they become the identity we carry, they can limit oneโ€™s ability to live a fulfilling life. โ€‹ ๐’๐“๐„๐ ๐Ÿ: Being aware & having the honesty, courage within to see if your drive & motivation is actually based on fear. โ€‹ Start with recognizing and seeing if the above patterns and symptoms are spawning from a deeper held hidden fears like self-worthlessness, loneliness, helplessness, feeling insignificant, insecurity & uncertainty. At this stage, accepting, understanding, & dissolving any suppressed feelings with curiosity, compassion & trust is the way โ€‹ For some deeply rooted fears, just thinking positive or positive affirmations wonโ€™t help โ€‹ Hidden childhood traumas & conditioning like imposter syndrome, emotional repression, shame & guilt have to be met with and the fragments have to be integrated โ€‹ ๐’๐“๐„๐ ๐Ÿ‘: Once these patterns are identified and hidden fears are unearthed, we need to go beyond mindset practices to make sure our shifts are sustained in the longer term. โ€‹ We may be able to put in some mindset practices and trick into feeling a certain way, and it may give us instant results, but they donโ€™t last long. โ€‹ The reality is that our bodies cannot be tricked. โ€‹ We store emotions and feelings within our body, and somatic approaches are absolutely needed for the body and nervous system to feel safe. โ€‹ Transformations at the deepest level have to be done for sustaining the shifts. โ€‹ Otherwise, we can be on a never-ending chase of one methodology after the other, one coach after the other, one program after the other

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