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Forget Positive Thinking, Do This To Change Your Negative Thinking



๐‘๐„๐€๐‹๐ˆ๐“๐˜ ๐“๐‡๐ˆ๐๐Š๐ˆ๐๐† - ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐๐Ž๐’๐ˆ๐“๐ˆ๐•๐„ ๐Ž๐‘ ๐๐„๐†๐€๐“๐ˆ๐•๐„

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You probably have had experiences with many self-help gurus who can promise you that by constantly repeating positive phrases to yourself, you can change your life

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If you simply tell yourself โ€œI am successful, I love myselfโ€ for an hour/day, your fears will simply evaporate

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If this has worked for you, you can please skip this post. This is not for you...

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๐ˆ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ญ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ & ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ž๐ฌ๐ง'๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐š๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐œ ๐š๐ญ ๐š ๐๐ž๐ž๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐š ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง.

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I used to struggle with excessive negative thinking. It was combined with catastrophizing thoughts with intense fear and worry.. about anything and everything... Some of you might be able to relate...

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And for me, the concept of โ€œpositive thinkingโ€ was a very difficult thing to hold on to. It was just too tiring. It did not feel authentic. It felt very pretentious.

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And it seemed like everyone around me was getting this seamlessly, they had the โ€œpositive thinkingโ€ thingy working, except for me, or so I thought.

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Many of my clients, who have had similar experiences, finally understood the illusion they were in. Most of my clients come from a self-help, self-growth, self-development background... and had tried the positive affirmations for quite some time..

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Although it gave an initial boost, they went back to their old way, it was not sustained..

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Because affirmations and positive thinking operate at the surface level of conscious thinking & do nothing to remove the conditioning at the subconscious level

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OR

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With a lot of repeating, you are most likely going to create this new habit, which can become just โ€œanotherโ€ subconscious identity/conditioning subconscious (as habits end up in your subconscious)

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The sad part - both positive & negative thinking takes you further away from the conscious reality you are experiencing in the present moment.

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๐“๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐œ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž, ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐จ ๐›๐ž๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž & ๐ง๐ž๐ ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐“๐‡๐„ ๐‘๐„๐€๐‹๐ˆ๐“๐˜

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So, letโ€™s say, you keep saying โ€œYou are successful, You are worthyโ€, but then there is another deep-seated belief that โ€œYou are never enough and unworthyโ€ - you will get into a more intense inner-war with conflicting identities pulling you in two opposite directions. This is really a tuff war... Both identities are not going to give up easily.

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Of course, we know that ruminating in negative thinking can turn toxic, but white-washing your insecurities with positive thinking is only a temporary fix - also called "๐›๐ฒ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐  " or "๐ญ๐จ๐ฑ๐ข๐œ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ"

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So how are we to take control to transform?

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At the minimum, you have to transform at 3 levels (even more, but we start with these 3)

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๐Œ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฅ (๐Œ๐ข๐ง๐)

๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ (๐‡๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ญ)

๐’๐จ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐œ (๐†๐ฎ๐ญ)

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For this post, I will focus only on the mental (mind) level REFRAMING with a couple of methods that has done wonders for me & my clients.

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#๐Ÿ ๐ƒ๐„๐•๐„๐‹๐Ž๐ ๐€ ๐๐„๐– ๐‘๐„๐‹๐€๐“๐ˆ๐Ž๐๐’๐‡๐ˆ๐ ๐–๐ˆ๐“๐‡ ๐˜๐Ž๐”๐‘ ๐’๐„๐‹๐…-๐“๐€๐‹๐Š

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Instead of positive or negative self-talk, use INTROSPECTIVE self-talk, be curious - โ€œAm I really not enough & unworthy? Can I be successful? Am I willing to do what it takes toโ€ฆ, How can Iโ€ฆ.โ€

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๐€๐ง๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ง ๐๐ž๐ž๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ฒ

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Many studies have shown this works better than affirmations because it acknowledges your negative thoughts/feelings & reduces the need to fight them.

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#๐Ÿ ๐…๐Ž๐‚๐”๐’ ๐Ž๐ ๐๐‘๐Ž๐†๐‘๐„๐’๐’, ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐‘๐„๐’๐”๐‹๐“

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Instead of making statement like โ€œI am successful or I am worthyโ€, reframe using statements like โ€œI am willing to feel more worthy and successful"...

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Here, you are not focusing on the result of success or being worthy, ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐œ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ โ€“ ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  โ€œ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ โ€ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ & ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐œ.

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If you are prone to negative thinking and sick with positive affirmations that donโ€™t work, try one of the above methodologies.

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You may start noticing major changes in your life!

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And if you can go further, exploring making changes at the emotional and somatic levels too..

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๐‚๐ก๐ž๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐‚๐Ž๐๐’๐‚๐ˆ๐Ž๐”๐’ ๐‘๐„๐€๐‹๐ˆ๐“๐˜ ๐“๐‡๐ˆ๐๐Š๐ˆ๐๐†!

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-Sunitha

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